You were having a great text conversation with your boyfriend and all of a sudden, he goes silent mid-conversation. He has left the conversation without warning.
When this happens to you, you will find it hard to focus on anything else. Why did he stop texting in the middle of an exciting conversation? Your mind will be going round and round trying to find an answer to this question.
As human beings, our default thinking is always negative. You will think up the worst possible reasons for this turn of events.
Did I offend him in any way? Has he lost interest in me? Is he disappointed in me?
Before you tie yourself in knots entertaining such negative thoughts, just try considering some simple and obvious reasons. His phone ran out of charge. Or he is facing a network error.
Just take a deep breath and consider these reasons when a guy stops texting mid-conversation. You may feel foolish for considering such possibilities and stressing out unnecessarily.
Why does he suddenly stop texting mid-conversation?
If someone stops texting mid-conversation, it is obvious that they were distracted by something. Maybe he initiates conversation but stops for more personal reasons as well.
1. He had to answer a call
This is the most probable reason for him to stop texting you mid-conversation. Someone he knows, maybe a friend or family member called him. Or it can be someone from work. If this happens late at night, it may be an emergency.
If it was a real emergency, he’s not at fault for not letting you know. He got caught up in things and forgot that he was texting you when the call came in. But if it wasn’t an emergency, he may have still forgotten about your text conversation. If this is the case, he will apologize when he remembers about it.
On the other hand, if he deliberately didn’t resume the conversation with you after the call got over, it’s worth noting. Maybe he doesn’t value you as much as he should. If this is the case, you should reevaluate your relationship and call it quits if things are not going to improve.
2. He was ticked off by something you said
Now with most of the dating happening over apps and online, it becomes hard to really know the other person. When you don’t know the person you’re dating and their back story, you may inadvertently end up saying the wrong things.
Again, from your boyfriend’s perspective, he may assign unintentional meanings to what you said. He may overthink what you said and misinterpret your intentions altogether.
Or else he may be reminded of your ex by the way you talk or behave. If it was a traumatic relationship, this can pull him down instantaneously. He may be more angry at himself and the world than with you. He may think that he needs a break to feel better.
3. He had an accident
This may not be as common as others but it cannot be ruled out. Maybe he was texting you while crossing the street or driving. He was distracted by your text and met with an accident.
You can avoid this scenario by asking him in the beginning what he is doing. Avoid texting if he is walking on the street or driving. Or, doing anything that requires his complete concentration.
You may want to text him at that moment but he may not be available. It’s not worth taking the risk.
4. You said something inappropriate
You were talking about something sensitive and personal and got carried away by the emotions. You said something you shouldn’t have and he felt offended. The moment you sent the text, you realized it was wrong but you know that he has already seen it. There is no point in deleting the message.
Even if they are rough and tough guys, they are hurt by certain things. You should know better than that. When you are in a relationship, it is important to understand the partner. You need to know what makes them happy and what is their trigger. And, you should take care to avoid saying inappropriate things.
5. You were wasting his time
Maybe he asked you a simple question and you were going round and round without giving him a straight answer. When you beat around the bush and do not give him an answer, he will soon lose interest and leave it mid-conversation. This may even make him think that you’re not taking the relationship seriously.
Maybe it was not your intention. But you need to understand the other person’s perspective if you want a good relationship with them.
6. He is fooling around with you
He is the kind of person who likes to tease others and play tricks on them. He knows that if he disappears in the middle of texting, you will become concerned and your curiosity will be aroused. You may even feel irritated and angry not knowing the reason for such behavior.
Or, he may want you to pay more attention to your words and actions and reevaluate your past behavior toward him. He is using this tactic to draw your attention to your own words and actions. He’s using his silence to force you into doing things his way. This is not healthy in a relationship.
7. He wants to know how you would react
He may want to know you better and he’s using this as a test scenario. He wants to know if he disappears in the middle of texting, how you will react. Will you leave it at that and not bother about it? Or will you feel ruffled and try to figure out his reasons?
He may be trying to get your complete attention with such a step. Maybe he thinks that you do not value him enough and this will make you sit up and notice him. He may think that you’re not giving him enough space and time and with this step, you will be paying more attention to him.
If you do the same with him and this situation goes on, your relationship will turn into a cat-and-mouse game. It’s definitely not a healthy situation to be in.
8. He’s stalling for time
You asked him a simple question and he’s being evasive about it. He says a lot without saying anything relevant. You kept trying to get an answer from him and the situation escalated. He may not have appreciated your interrogative style of messages. He expects you to leave the topic and move on. Since you are not willing to do that, he thought that this is his only way out of the situation.
Or maybe he has taken time out of texting you to think about the issue so that he can figure out an answer to your question and let you know about it. If this is the case, you need to be patient and wait for him to reply.
9. He’s planning a surprise for you
If this is his reason, you will know about it soon enough. He may be close by and reach your place soon to surprise you. Or, he may be arranging with someone to give you a surprise. Whatever it is, you’re going to be pleasantly surprised.
Before taking offense at him for cutting short the conversation and being silent, pause for a moment and consider this. Maybe he’s planning to propose to you. Be ready with your reaction.
10. He’s breaking up with you
Maybe realized that you are not the right person for him or that he’s not ready for a serious relationship. Or else, he might find the pace too much for him to handle. There can be any number of reasons for him to call it quits. He can also be considering a short break in the relationship to catch his breath.
Most partners who want to part ways feel guilty for taking that action. They are reluctant to say it face to face. Most often you have to deduce what they want through their actions. Going silent on you is one such sign.
11. He fell asleep while texting
Maybe you were texting late at night and he was already too tired. He may have just dozed off mid-conversation. When he woke up after a while, he realized what he did, but felt too foolish to text you back. Maybe he even thought you would understand as it was so late.
He may not have considered that you would worry about his stopping messages mid-conversation. Or else, he would have told you that he fell asleep. He didn’t think of it as a big deal and forgot about it the next day.
What to do when he stops texting mid conversation?
If this happens to you, don’t become despondent or hit the roof. Most probably, it’s something minor or trivial. But it’s most important not to blow it up out of proportion. Here are some suggestions for you to deal with the situation.
- Send him a text asking if all is well with him. If he doesn’t respond to this, leave it at that.
- If texts are not working, send a selfie, gif, emoji, or meme to entice him into a conversation.
- Call him right away or the next morning. From his response, you will get a better idea of what is going on.
- Pay him a visit and better take a friend with you.
- Ask his best friend what is going on with him.
- Give him some space and time.
- Don’t get worked up and stay calm.
- Try to find the hidden meaning in his old texts. This is something we often miss out on.
- Don’t jump to conclusions and take actions that you may regret later on.
- Give the situation some time to cool down.
- In the meanwhile, check his past to see if you can find a pattern.
- Return the favor by ghosting him.
The Bottom Line
When a guy stops texting mid-conversation, it’s natural that you feel confused and even annoyed by it. At times, all you need to do is wait for some time. You may get his reply a bit late. He may even give you an explanation for his abrupt stopping of the messages and apologize for the same.
If you act based on what you feel in the heat of the moment, you may regret it later. It’s easy to misunderstand the intentions of others. However, don’t allow him to take you for granted either. If he’s making this a habit, you need to put your foot down and say enough is enough.
Remember, silence is not an answer or a substitute for a conversation. It never was and it never will be.
Additionally, if a guy makes excuses to talk to you and then suddenly stops texting, don’t take it personally. Focus on those who show consistent interest and effort in getting to know you. His silence likely says more about him than you.